- Cream Cashmere Tunic: Stefanel, mommed
- Layering Cami: Be Maternity via Target
- Navy Abstract-Floral-Print Skirt: induetime via eBay
- Brown Peep-Toes: Naturalizer via amazon.com
- Metallic Fabric Belt: LOFT
- Maroon Earrings: Target
And just like that…3rd year! Finally?
It’s hard not to love the first day of school, with all its anticipatory, nervous pleasures. And on what should be my last first day of school ever, it was hard for me to resist getting a little bit misty-eyed as I packed my lunch, tried to pick out the perfect outfit, and headed off to class with all my neatly-labeled notebooks and carefully annotated reading assignments.
Of course, this first day of school was different in so many ways, and not just because it was my last: not only is the last year of law school a little bit of a bizarre experience to begin with (as many 3Ls know by early September what they’re headed off to do after graduation), but I’m coming back to school more than nine months pregnant and waiting to go into labor . . . any time now. And while I was pretty sure I looked enormous at the end of May, I didn’t really look all that pregnant then, so I’ve spent my first days of school this week laughing a little bit at some of the surprised looks I’ve gotten when people ask how far along I am. And like any setting involving a wide age range, there have been a few hilariously inappropriate reactions, but for the most part, my classmates are delighted, if a bit concerned at what will happen if my water breaks in class.
Unfortunately, my first day of class wasn’t entirely fun and games, as I’d be lying if I wasn’t confronting a fairly serious pregnancy-related body-image fail this week. I’m doing my best to come out of it and to find ways to dress that make me feel good about my changing (and exhausted) body, but it hasn’t all been sunshine, roses and thoughts I’m happy to admit to. With this outfit, I stuck to one of my favorite tricks for fighting the body-image blahs: finding or simulating a familiar, favorite silhouette that feels like me — or at least a version of me that swallowed a basketball inadvertently. I’m also letting my accessories do some of the work of attracting visual interest and drawing it towards my face, rather than my midsection. Obviously, I’m not fooling anyone, but it made me feel put together, composed, and maybe slightly less swollen.
What are your favorite tricks for dressing through the body image blahs? Do you have a go-to outfit or strategy that gives you a sartorial boost when you’re not feeling your best?
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- Teal Dress: Liz Lange for Target
- Putty Draped Cardigan: vince via Nordstrom’s, gift from Mom
- Blue Glass Necklace: purchased in Cozumel in 2005 and only recently rediscovered
- Brown Die-Cut Flats: Lifestride via Zappos
Maybe it’s the beginning of the fall term, or maybe it’s the hilarious way that our oppressively hot July makes a day where the high is “only” in the low 80s seem downright frigid, but it’s starting to feel awfully like sweater weather, particularly on a rainy Friday afternoon as we prepared for the arrival of Hurricane Irene. I’m breaking all of my please-wear-something-other-than-matte-jersey-for-the-love-of-whatever rules, but it was hard to resist something so darn…cozy. I’m trying to make up for the lack of structure with interesting shapes and accessories, which I’d like to think are at least partially mitigating the 9-months-pregnant + dress = tent equation. Admittedly, though, I’m still working on ways to resolve this paradox of late-pregnancy dressing: what do you do when the things that are the most physically comfortable start to feel sloppy, inappropriate, ill-suited, etc.?
Despite all the hoopla, we ended up making it through the storm with only a modicum of inconvenience. We are, however, looking forward to telling our daughter some day the truly fantastic stories about the many adventures of the month before her birth; it kind of makes me wish I was able to say I’d survived multiple earthquakes, a hurricane and multiple extended power outages before I entered the world!
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- Peach-orange Top: Japanese Weekend via eBay
- Plum Jersey Skirt: Old Navy (non-maternity)
- Silver Necklace: gifted
- Teal Earrings: mall kiosk
- Sueded Wedge Sandals: Earthies via Zappos
There’s a hilarious irony to the fact that the majority of my late-pregnancy discomforts (and, well, occasional moments of desperation!) tend to be ameliorated by staying as busy and active as possible. Case in point: my urge to take immediate action in response to the increasing amount of clutter in our house . . . between 10 p.m. and 1 a.m. last night. (After which there was another earthquake. Connected events?) So, in the spirit of, “I’ve found something that works and now I’m going to do it ALL THE TIME,” I’m trying to stay busy and engaged, flexing my creative, organizational, intellectual and physical muscles as much as I can.
To that end, a belated take on one of my favorite summer trends, as the season begins to fade away from us (tear!), and yet another unusual-for-me proportion. Intriguingly, also an example of how sometimes, color + color works better than color + neutral: when I tried to wear this top with they grey version of this skirt, it looked like something of a hot mess, but I’m loving the unexpected combination of plum and peach here. Since I seem incapable of exposing my ears adequately in photos, you can’t see it very well here, but there’s also a sneaky triad hiding in this outfit — can you find it?
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- Denim Bermudas: Loft Maternity
- Black and White Polka-Dot Tunic: Japanese Weekend via eBay
- Yellow Peep-Toes: Bandolino via ShoeWoo!
- Purple Necklace: Gift from D.’s sweet aunt
We officially hit the “full term” mark earlier this week, meaning baby could come at any time . . . or hold out for another five(!) weeks, giving this stage of pregnancy a distinctive “of all the things I’ve lost, I miss my mind the most” sort of feel. As our summer break from school winds down before classes start on Monday, I find myself making many, many “contingency” lists: here are the notes for the talk I’m supposed to give on Saturday if I’m the one giving it, here’s the version if I have to walk someone else through how to give it for me, here’s the version if someone else has to do so and is unable to get in touch with me, etc. But despite the dizzying array of possibilities, it’s been a really nice, quiet few days of long walks, reading (mostly school-related), and relaxing before our world gets shaken up.
So what do you wear while you’re waiting, when the heat is getting to you and the number of things in your closet that still fit is rapidly approaching zero? Apparently, the silliest things you can find: a necklace made of purple corn kernels, mustard-yellow shoes, and a patterned, polka-dotted tunic (complete with infamous empire waist!). Consider it my nod to the adorable little boy in CVS who saw me, pointed at his mother and exclaimed, “look!” Yep, kiddo: pregnant ladies are pretty hilarious looking, aren’t they?
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- White Cashmere Tunic: Stefanel, mommed
- White Tank: Gap Maternity
- “Jorts”: Liz Lange for Target
- Die-Cut Brown Flats: Lifestride via Zappos
- Beaded Fabric Belt: LOFT
- Blue Beaded Necklace: Forever 21
As with so many things about dressing my now-very-pregnant body, if you’d have told me several months ago that I was going to walk out of the house wearing a tunic sweater that I’ve never, EVER been able to figure out how to wear, mid-thigh length denim shorts, a metallic beaded belt and dressy flats…and kind of love it, I’d have laughed at you. Hard. And I’m still laughing (just at myself, as Emily’s and my list of things we swore we’d never wear that we seem to be wearing grows ever longer), but at the same time, I’m appreciating one of the unexpected joys of pregnancy dressing: the sheer, rampant fun of experimenting with proportions on an unfamiliar body.
And necessity can really be the mother of invention: some of the things I’ve discovered a love for while pregnant are things I can easily see maintaining in my post-pregnancy wardrobe (tightly analogous color combinations, for example, and maybe even the occasional maxi dress). Others . . . not so much (I’m looking at you, empire-waisted everything). But even so, I’m amazed by the way some things just seem to work on this strange, somewhat alien form of mine at the moment: when I’ve tried to belt this tunic in other moments, it’s looked absolutely ridiculous (neither long enough nor short enough, neither slouchy enough nor fitted enough), but I loved the way it looked here, stretched over the bump and belted with a skinny fabric belt. To balance out the awkward interaction of belt and high neckline, I’m using the blue necklace to add some visual interest, which works relatively well, and adds a pop of color to the overall picture.
And hey . . . I count multiple elements of this outfit that are made out of woven fabrics, some of which even have (or lend) some shape. That’s progress, right?
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First Impressions: Essential Pieces and Shopping Strategies
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Last week, we talked about navigating the office dress code in a new environment, including the often-mystifying differences between the “official” dress code and the on-the-ground sartorial norms. This week, we’ll talk about what to do with those guidelines: some thoughts on shopping strategies, accessorizing, and “essential” wardrobe items.
First, a few things to consider:
- Your time horizon and repeat tolerance: If you’re just acquiring a few things to get you through a summer job or internship, your perspective on what kinds of things you should have and what quality they need to be will be different than if you’re starting a permanent job after leaving college or graduate school. Likewise, the size (and fashion-awareness) of your office, the number of people you come into contact with every day, and your personal preferences will affect the percentage of the time you want to spend wearing (or feeling like you’re wearing) different outfits.
- Your budget. This goes pretty much without say.
- What the dress code in your office is really like.
- Other considerations that restrict the size of your capsule wardrobe. For example, my dear friend K. commuted from New Haven to D.C. every week so she could see her husband on the weekends while we were working over the summer, and didn’t have access to anything you could meaningfully call a closet for much of the duration. It didn’t prevent her from having great style, but it did place some obvious restrictions on how many pieces she had in her rotation.
- Any particular rules in your office regarding accessories. Your office may or may not allow peep-toed shoes, dangling earrings, etc. Accessories rules tend to be ones that can be bent more easily, but your mileage may vary.
A few truly essential pieces:
- Your interview suit. Should be as basic as can be (and therefore almost endlessly remixable). Ideally, you have multiple pieces (e.g., pants and skirt that match the same blazer, or a skirt and a shift dress).
- For goodness sake, a pair of sensible shoes. This is just common sense, but particularly true in the law firm/consulting summer program context. People will take you places, you will walk a lot on terrible city sidewalks, and there is nothing professional about desperately sore feet or heels that have been demolished in sidewalk grates. (Take it from someone who ruined a pair of brand new heels on the first day of my summer program as a 1L walking halfway across the city to go to lunch with my mentor. Sigh.)
- One, possibly two, pairs of basic “office” pumps. These are the shoes that match your interview suit and, hopefully, virtually everything else in your work capsule wardrobe. Maybe not the most exciting pair of shoes ever, but the ones that will be unobjectionable in virtually all settings in which you think you’ll find yourself.
- A day dress (or two) in a solid fabric that you really, really love. There are two schools of thought here about neutral or colored, but this is another question for common sense and good judgment about where you fit in your professional universe. Ideally, this is also a dress that can go under a blazer of some kind, or a cardigan, or be worn by itself when the occasion calls for it.
- In a more formal office, a second and possibly a third suit. How many suits you need will depends on the availability of suit alternatives in your office and your closet, other things that might be considered business formal, and how many pieces you’re able to acquire in a given suit.
- In a business casual office, a few key separates that hold up well and play well with a variety of colors. Depending on your preference, this may mean more skirts or pants, but should probably also include one additional blazer, perhaps in a more distinctively colored or textured fabric.
Different approaches to building a work wardrobe:
- The cohesive capsule. If you’re really starting from scratch, and you’re confident about the dress norms in the office you’ll be working in, and your budget permits this approach, you might consider acquiring a capsule wardrobe that all more or less fits together all at once. Personally, I tend to struggle with this one, mostly because I like being able to react to changes in my circumstances (and my mood!) as I get used to a new environment.
- The gradual approach. Just like it sounds, this one works best if you know your closet better than you know the environment you’ll be working in: figure out what you’ll need for the first week or two, and then fill in the gaps as you get to know the environment and what your peers and superiors are wearing.
- The not-so-conformist approach. Riskier, but an option when you’re (a) working in a smaller office and won’t be part of a large, identifiable peer group, (b) already have a significant stable of workplace-appropriate items in your closet and (c) have a longer time horizon. Edit a capsule of items that fit these genres, but don’t necessarily all fit together quite so tightly. Want to try to be a little nonconformist but still blend in where necessary? My favorite place to start is with your shoes.
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As we often talk about, bodies are never neutral. The act of self-fashioning interacts with assumptions (ours and those we perceive others to have) about race, gender, class, age, family, intellect, and, of course, the complicated matrix of body image, self-esteem and physical ability. My own narrative of health, participation in sports, of testing and retesting my physical limits, and of my body image highs and lows along the way is an important aspect of how I think about dressing myself—even now, at nine(!) months pregnant. While I’m not offering advice of any kind (really! that’s important), I want to start a conversation about some of these topics, which I suspect may become even more important to me as I try to figure out how to dress myself postpartum. As always, if there are specific topics you’d like to see addressed or things you’re curious about, I’d love to know—leave a comment or drop me an e-mail at narrowlytailored at gmail dot com.

{Image via fortwofitness.com … and certainly not what I look like at 36 weeks pregnant!}
While every woman is different and every pregnancy is different, I’ve felt incredibly fortunate that with a few exceptions, I’ve been able to do some form of exercise almost every day of my pregnancy. The emphasis here is on “some form”: my 100+ mile cycling weeks had tapered off by the time I found out I was pregnant (winter has a way of doing that to you), and while I ran through about 20 weeks, the other day I found myself a little tired after walking what would have been an “easy run” nine months ago. As my pregnancy has progressed, I’ve had to adapt my expectations as to what “counts” as exercise, and really listen to what my body is ready for in that moment (and trust me, there are days where the answer is “not much!”). I’m obviously not running a controlled experiment, but I do think being able to stay active has been important to my physical health, but even more so, it’s been critical to my emotional health.
Of course, like a surprising number of aspects of a pregnant woman’s behavior, prenatal exercise is a subject about which the societal dialogue is, well, pretty weird. (Case in point, this Today show story about “mommyrexia,” featuring clips of pregnant women running to introduce the topic.) And I’d be remiss if I didn’t say that in addition to being incredibly fortunate that my health has enabled me to continue to be active while pregnant, I’ve also been the beneficiary of supportive friends, family members and medical professionals who have understood and encouraged my desire to do so (sometimes to an almost comical degree: at 30 weeks, I told one of the OBs in my practice that my back was stiffening up a little bit, and his first response was, “are you getting enough exercise?”). Totally by chance, I’ve also benefitted from the inspiring examples of a number of real women chronicling their efforts to stay healthy and active while pregnant. In the spirit of paying it forward, here are a few of my favorite resources on prenatal exercise, and some links to my favorite actively pregnant (or recently actively pregnant) bloggers:
Background info…and some warm fuzzies:
- The American College of OB/Gyns’ updated recommendations on prenatal exercise. The ACOG guidelines are a great place to start a conversation with your doctor or midwife, in particular because they’ve changed significantly in recent years.
- Some new research on the benefits of prenatal exercise for baby, as well as mom.
- Runner’s World’s resources on pregnancy and running.
- Fit Pregnancy’s facts and myths about prenatal exercise.
- Run Like a Mother is edited by Runner’s World’s longtime running-moms-in-residence, Dimity MacDowell and Sara Bowen-Shea.
- This Runner’s Trials chronicles Jen’s pregnancy after struggling with infertility.
- (Never Home) Maker has some great food-and-fitness tips, some pregnancy-specific and some not. Ashley’s detailing her pregnancy separately on (Never Home) Maker, Baby!
- Emily Malone, of Babble.com and Daily Garnish, is an amazing chef and an amazingly active mom-to-be.
- S. of Simply Bike, who just delivered her gorgeous daughter C., detailed her active pregnancy, right up to 41.5 weeks!
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- Peach-Orange Top: Japanese Weekend via eBay
- “Jorts”: Liz Lange for Target
- Striped Flats: Annie via Zappos
- Teal Earrings: Forever 21
I have a confession to make: as I navigate these unstructured days of my quasi-vacation and the strange limbo of late pregnancy, it is all too easy to spend far too much of the day in my gym clothes or in some other slightly-dressier soft, fuzzy equivalent. I was struck by this fact the other day, when I went for an early-morning walk with my sweet friend and neighbor, who gave birth to her third child eight weeks ago. True, she was wearing yoga pants and a tee-shirt, but she managed to strap two toddlers into a stroller and a newborn into a baby carrier and have her hair and makeup done…in the time it had taken me to trundle down the stairs in shorts, a tee-shirt and a hat. In truth, I felt a little embarrassed (and super impressed, A4.!), but I also felt like I was doing a lousy job at something that’s been an important goal of mine: taking care of myself in a way that makes me feel “like me,” despite my changing body and the vagaries of late pregnancy.
So, I’m trying to give myself a little more structure these days, both in terms of my routine and my sartorial choices. It’s not exactly the newest trick in the book, but I’m hoping that trying to get myself to wear one thing that isn’t made of matte jersey will help both my self-image and my productivity during these final days before school starts. Today, I’m giving it a go while trying something else new: these shorts, which are a length I couldn’t really have imagined myself wearing under normal circumstances. I’m not sure I’m 100% sold on them. All the same, I’m appreciating the chance to continue experimenting with new proportions on this unfamiliar body, and challenging myself to appreciate aspects of my body that, like my legs, I’ve struggled to find ways to love.
Also a new experiment? These striped flats, finally found at the conclusion of a very, very long search for a pair of festive, printed flats. While I can (and do!) still wear heels, pregnant or not, I love the way an unexpected flat can add new dimensions to an outfit, and can be both chic and comfortable at the same time. I’m hoping these earthy jewel tones will turn out to be perfect for fall, as well, and will have me nimbly chasing after our little girl once she arrives!
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Above:
- Teal Ruched Tee: Liz Lange for Target
- Grey Jersey Skirt: Old Navy (non-maternity)
- Necklace: gifted
- Bejeweled T-Straps: Indigo by Clarks via Zappos
- Denim Bermudas: Loft Maternity
- Bejeweled T-Straps: Indigo by Clarks via Zappos
- White Cami: Gap Maternity via gap.com
- Orange Draped Top: Olian via Nordstrom’s, gift from Mom
I’ve finally found my favorite odd battle ground in the mommy wars. It’s not team stay-at-home mom versus team working mom, or team breastfeeding versus team bottle feeding. It’s maternity waistbands: team low rise and team full panel.
I’ve switched teams frequently on this one (a subject I’ll tackle in more detail in a forthcoming series on maternity wardrobe essentials), and not in a necessarily linear way. Many maternity designers advocate the idea that there’s some appropriate progression to maternity waistband choice, that you “should” start out wearing your pre-pregnancy pants with a belly band, and then progress through “real waist,” “low rise” and eventually on to “full panel” styles as your bump grows. And this approach isn’t crazy. The problem? You might change your mind (a lot), and it’s hard to plan appropriately to purchase things that will actually fit for a decent percentage of your pregnancy. While (like everything about pregnancy wardrobe choices) this varies depending on your pre-pregnancy proportions, your digestive symptoms and how you’re carrying, you may also find a tension between avoiding pressure on your belly and avoiding what Sal of AlreadyPretty would call Segmented Worm Syndrome.
As my pregnancy has progressed, my bump has expanded not only forwards but…sideways, which creates not only the strange sensation of feeling baby movements at about the same longitude (yes, I’m feeling…globular) as my hip bones, but makes many low rise styles challenging to wear (see below). Lest you think me helplessly vain, I promise it’s not just because they appear to give me the equivalent of pregnancy love handles, but it actually is a comfort issue. Because I’m carrying low, the stiff elastic cuts not only into my sides but into the lower part of my belly, which just…doesn’t feel good. The outfit below is in some ways a partial farewell to wearing these kinds of waistbands on a regular basis, at least without a longer, more structured layer up top, that permits greater flexibility in waistband placement.
The first of these looks, though, represents something of a breakthrough, simple though it may seem: it actually isn’t a maternity skirt. Seriously: it’s just a plain, ordinary Old Navy jersey skirt with a foldover waistband, free of any crazy spandex/microfiber/elastic pyrotechnics. Depending on the day, it fits either partway below or partway over my belly, with the waistband either folded up or folded down. I’m a little wary about jersey skirts for my particular proportions, since they tend to reveal more than I’d like, and this is certainly not the apotheosis of perfect jersey skirts. That said, the a-line silhouette and relatively sturdy fabric go a long way to preserving appropriate modesty levels, and it works well enough with a slip that I don’t feel uncomfortably bereft of Spanx. The softness of the jersey is a marked contrast to the stiff elastic on most of my “low rise” maternity bottoms, and it’s remarkably more comfortable. And I know I can’t really live in it, but…I might be tempted. Bonus? It might turn into a postpartum mainstay, as well.
If you are or have been pregnant, how did your waistband preferences shift throughout your pregnancy? What about postpartum? If you haven’t been, does the fear of awkward segmentation affect your layering strategies? Under what circumstances?
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First Impressions: Navigating the Office Dress Code
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Almost every office has one.
No, not that slightly nosy coworker who somehow manages to know everything about everyone’s lives (those too, though). A dress code. Unfortunately, for a document that’s intended to provide clarity of expectations ahead of time, the average office dress code is riddled with unwritten (and often unspoken) rules and norms. So, how do you develop a strategy for navigating appropriate dress in these muddy waters? Here are a few questions to consider in assembling a “capsule wardrobe” of work essentials.
- Does your dress code define office dress as “business casual” or “professional attire” or ”business formal”? Obviously, you’ll have greater flexibility in a business casual environment.
- If the dress code says business casual, does it really mean it? For example, at many law firms, the dress code will say something along the lines of, “our office is business casual, but many attorneys prefer to wear formal business attire most days.” Pay attention to the norms that appear to apply to your peers, rather than the blanket guidelines for the office as a whole.
- Even if the dress code is business casual, will you be in situations that otherwise require more formal attire? Even in a business casual office, if you’re a lawyer, you have to go to court sometimes. Or if you’re a consultant, you have to meet with clients. Or [insert important outside-the-office obligation here]. How often do these kinds of settings come up? Do you usually know ahead of time, or will you need to keep an emergency suit stashed in your office?
- How does your office define formal business attire? In some offices, formal business attire would include a dress (usually with sleeves) on its own, without a jacket or other topper. If this is you, consider investing in a few (remixable) dresses that can be worn on their own. If formal business attire means you’re wearing a jacket but not necessarily a suit, consider what kinds of suit alternatives might be appropriate.
- If you’ll be working during the summer, does your office support the Right to Bare Arms? If it doesn’t, is it just a “no tanktops” rule, or are short sleeves also considered inappropriate? Are jackets and cardigans equally acceptable arm coverings?
- What are rules about footwear? Are peep-toes permissible? How high is too high? Are flats famed or frowned upon?
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